What Hope Heals Camp Taught Me About Showing Up for People
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I just recently returned from a week at Hope Heals Camp, and I'm still turning it over in my head. I haven't written much about it yet because I wanted to sit with it a little first before I tried to put words to it. But it's been on my mind enough that I wanted to share some of it here.
A Week That Slows You Down
Hope Heals Camp brings together families who are living with disability, and for a week they get to just be a family — not a diagnosis, not a set of appointments, not a list of things to manage. They get rest. They get to laugh. They get to be around other families who understand exactly what their days are like without having to explain it.
I go every year knowing it will wreck me a little, in the good way. It always does. There is something about being around people who have been through more than most of us will ever face, and watching them still find joy, still laugh loud, still hope — that has a way of resetting your perspective on what actually matters.
What It Reminds Me Every Time
It reminds me that showing up matters more than having the right words. Most of the time people don't need you to fix anything. They need you to be there, pay attention, and not rush them.
It reminds me that everybody is carrying something. You don't always know what it is when you meet somebody at a listing appointment or shake their hand at a closing table. But everybody has a story that's harder than it looks from the outside.
And it reminds me that hard things are still doable. That's not just a phrase I like to say. I watched it in person again this week — families doing genuinely hard, exhausting, day-in-day-out hard things, and still choosing joy in the middle of it. That sticks with you.
Carrying That Back Into the Work I Do
Selling a house is rarely just a transaction. It's often tied to something much bigger — a death in the family, a divorce, a job loss, a move to be closer to aging parents, a downsize because the stairs got harder, or just a season of life that's ending and a new one starting. People walk into that first conversation carrying more than they say out loud.
After 27 years doing this in Wilmington, I've learned that the sellers I help best are the ones I slow down for. Not the ones where I rush through a pricing conversation and hand over a marketing packet. The ones where I actually listen first — to what's really going on, what the timeline pressures really are, what they're worried about that they haven't said yet.
That's the same muscle Hope Heals Camp exercises in me every year. Be present. Pay attention. Don't assume you know somebody's whole story just because you know part of it.
Why I Share This Here
I don't usually write about camp on a real estate blog, but I think the two things are more connected than they seem. If you're a seller in the Wilmington area right now, odds are you're not selling a house just because you feel like it. There's a reason behind it, and that reason deserves somebody who will actually listen before they start talking about price and marketing.
That's how our team tries to approach every listing — starting with the whole picture, not just the square footage. If you want to see how we think about pricing, timing, and getting a home sold without a lot of unnecessary stress, you can read more at how our team sells homes.
One More Thing
I came home from this trip grateful, tired in a good way, and reminded that the people in front of us usually matter more than the tasks in front of us. That's true in camp cabins and it's true at kitchen tables when we're talking through a home sale.
If you're facing a hard season and a house sale is part of it, I'd rather hear the real story first. Give me a call or text at (910) 395-1000. No rush, no pressure — just a conversation.
Read the episode transcript
Host: So today's episode is a little different, Buddy. We're getting into something you wrote about Hope Heals Camp, and honestly, when I read it, it didn't feel like a typical real estate post at all.
Buddy Blake: Yeah, it's not, really. I just got back from a week there, and I've been kind of turning it over in my head since. Didn't want to write about it right away, wanted to sit with it a bit first.
Host: Okay so for anybody who doesn't know, what is Hope Heals Camp exactly?
Buddy Blake: So it brings together families who are living with disability, and for a week they just get to be a family. Not a diagnosis, not a set of appointments, not a list of things to manage. They get rest. They get to laugh. They're around other families who understand their exact day-to-day without having to explain it.
Host: That sounds like it would be pretty emotional to be around.
Buddy Blake: Every year, man. I go knowing it's gonna wreck me a little, in the good way. There's something about being around people who've been through more than most of us ever will, and watching them still find joy, still laugh loud, still hope. It resets your perspective on what actually matters.
Host: You wrote that it reminds you of a few specific things every time you go. What's the first one?
Buddy Blake: That showing up matters more than having the right words. Most of the time people don't need you to fix anything. They need you to be there, pay attention, and not rush them.
Host: I love that. What's the second thing?
Buddy Blake: That everybody's carrying something. You don't always know what it is when you meet somebody at a listing appointment or shake their hand at a closing table. But everybody's got a story that's harder than it looks from the outside.
Host: Right, exactly. You never really know what somebody walked through to get to that table with you.
Buddy Blake: And the third thing, honestly the one that sticks with me most, is that hard things are still doable. That's not just something I like to say. I watched it in person again this week, families doing genuinely hard, exhausting, day-in-day-out hard things, and still choosing joy in the middle of it.
Host: Okay so here's what I'm curious about. How does a week at camp connect to selling houses in Wilmington?
Buddy Blake: More than people would think. Selling a house is rarely just a transaction. It's tied to something bigger, a death in the family, a divorce, a job loss, a move to be closer to aging parents, a downsize because the stairs got harder. People walk into that first conversation carrying more than they say out loud.
Host: So after twenty-seven years doing this in Wilmington, what have you actually learned works?
Buddy Blake: The sellers I help best are the ones I slow down for. Not the ones where I rush through a pricing conversation and hand over a marketing packet. The ones where I actually listen first, to what's really going on, what the timeline pressures really are, what they're worried about that they haven't said out loud yet.
Host: That's the same muscle camp exercises in you, huh?
Buddy Blake: Exactly the same muscle. Be present. Pay attention. Don't assume you know somebody's whole story just because you know part of it.
Host: So why share this on a real estate blog at all? Some people might read it and go, wait, what does this have to do with buying or selling a house?
Buddy Blake: I get that. But I don't usually write about camp here, and I think the two things are more connected than they seem. If you're a seller in the Wilmington area right now, odds are you're not selling just because you feel like it. There's a reason behind it, and that reason deserves somebody who'll actually listen before they start talking price and marketing.
Host: So how does your team actually approach a listing, starting from that mindset?
Buddy Blake: We try to start with the whole picture, not just the square footage. Pricing, timing, how to get a home sold without a lot of unnecessary stress. All of that matters, but it starts with hearing the real story first.
Host: So how are you feeling, coming off this trip?
Buddy Blake: Grateful. Tired in a good way. Reminded that the people in front of us usually matter more than the tasks in front of us. That's true in camp cabins, and it's true at kitchen tables when we're talking through a home sale.
Host: That's a really good way to put it. Well, this was a different kind of conversation for us, but honestly one of my favorites. Buddy, if somebody's in a hard season and a house sale is part of it, what do you want them to do?
Buddy Blake: Just call or text me, nine one zero, three nine five, one thousand. No rush, no pressure, I'd rather hear the real story first.
Host: And the full article's linked in the show notes if you want to read it yourself. Buddy, thanks for sharing this one, means a lot.
Buddy Blake: Thanks for having me on it. Wasn't sure how this one would land, but glad we did it.
